START OVER

Have you ever attempted to do something and it just didn't work out the way you expected? That pretty much happens to me on a daily basis. Literally. Every. Single. Day! To be honest, it's not something I'm proud of but sometimes I manage to make it work. Other times, my shortcomings really make me question things, and by things I mean myself... I'm not talking about something big each time but regardless how big or small, this is now a part of my daily routine.

(The look I give when I realize I've messed up)

In situations like this I'm presented with three options:

Option #1: be done with it and hope nothing bad happens

Option #2: try to fix it and make it work somehow

Option #3: start over

Although these three options seem pretty straight forward and are all useful in their own way, there's always one that seems to be the best option and one option we always seem to forget about. Starting over is something I really don't like to do and also something I forget I have an option to do. I feel in most cases it's a waste of my time. But is it really? Think about it for a second... All the time and energy put towards trying to make it work and hoping nothing bad happens from our failed attempt can actually be used towards restarting instead.

The thing is, I feel "starting over" is looked down upon because it's admitting that we didn't do it right the first time. As I've matured, I've noticed simple mistakes happen more often than they did in the past. When this happens, you sometimes feel ashamed. Let's get real. Recently, I locked myself out of my house. (I don't think something like this has happened in over 10years and yet it did). It was a bit embarrassing but hey, shit happens right?! That was kind of a big deal but I hoped it would work out anyways and it did. By the way, I've been paranoid it'll happen again since then!

Another example of my shortcomings was making rice. I make amazing rice every week, sometimes more than once. Recently, I didn't use the right judgment for the rice and water ratio. I should have just dumped it and started over but instead I tried to fix it which then made a 20min process a 90min process. Starting over would of been beneficial considering the time and energy it took to save the disaster from the Rice Queen. But nooooo, no one can find out I messed it up and yet here I am talking about it in this post.

As a busy mom, building an online community, running two blogs, a YouTube channel, a household, and trying to live a healthy lifestyle I find I "mess up" often. No wonder I locked myself out of my house! I'm not perfect by any means but I do what I can. I believe I do an amazing job regardless how many times I've messed up, forgotten a lunch, or missed a reminder. These things happen, and they happen to everyone. I doubt I was the first person to lock myself out (I know this for a fact because I've already done this before and I wasn't first then either haha). So moving forward, I am trying to direct my energy towards starting over more often and not being ashamed that I had to start over in the first place.

The thing is, I tell my daughters daily, "don't give up, try again, you can do this." So why can't I tell myself the same thing? How do you feel about starting over? I find I'm always willing to hit that "restart" button on days when nothing seems to be going right. But then I noticed, I don't reach for that button when I'm struggling with one simple thing. That's going to change moving forward. Starting over is about to be my thing! I'm really looking forward to this because I know I'll mess up and I have decided I have no shame in simply starting over. Do you?

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DEE